Over the last eight months, I've learned more than I ever wanted to know about diabetes and how to best manage my blood sugar. Well, I suppose I should say "am learning" rather than "have learned" because it's definitely a daily process. Some days are better than others ... and some days are just cruddy. And today ... well, today has been a cruddy day.
One of the biggest lessons I'm learning is how God protects me time and time again. In all the spills I've taken over the last couple of months, I haven't broken a bone or split my head open ... some bruises and scrapes, but no serious injuries. The law of averages would say that one of those falls should have done some damage, but none of them have, unless, of course, you count the broken toilet seat. And for some of the worst episodes, in His protection and care, He has placed me in locations where there were people present who know how to help me.
I need to say here that when I go into the land of really low blood sugar, I can be rather difficult to deal with. I don't think clearly and am not always willing to accept the assistance that I need. I can't begin to explain how humbling it is to have someone else stick my finger, hold my juice for me or put glucose pills in my mouth because I'm shaking so badly I can't do it myself. I can't convey how embarrassing it is for me to be at church or work and have a bad episode and not be able to control it or make myself come out of it on my own. I can't describe how helpless I feel when others gather round and won't let me drive my car because they recognize that I'm not OK.
Tonight when I got home from church (after everything that I mentioned in the last paragraph had happened to me), I opened an email that not only touched my heart, it taught me once again that God is in the nitty gritty details of my life and that He has put special people close to me to think for me when I can't, to feed me when I'm not able, to stick me when I'm shaking ... to help me when I need it most. The words of the email jumped off the page at me as they reminded me that I'm part of a new village now that I'm on this diabetes journey ... a village of people who love me and are willing to go the extra mile to ensure that I'm cared for and safe and well. I was convicted of my stubbornness, my obstinance, my desire to do it all by myself as I read.
So I'm going to stop my whining and gracefully accept the blessing of the awesome people who are my village. I'm going to trust them more, respect them more, listen to them more, love them more. And before I close my eyes tonight in sleep, I'm going to thank God for His gift of my village ... my undeserved and unimaginable village.
Monday, June 14, 2010
Friday, June 11, 2010
Son Walking
There is a folder in my heart labeled "Matt." And there's one labeled "Brad." And there's one labeled "Meghann." For those of you who don't know, those are my children ... Matt is the oldest, Brad is the middle child, and Meghann is the baby of the family. Becca (my daughter-in-law) is in a wedding here in Kansas City tomorrow, so she and Matt are in town for the weekend. Matt dropped Becca off at the rehearsal this evening and then came to my house around 6:00. He mowed my yard, and then he and I went for a walk ... with three wiener dogs in tow.
We walked for about 45 minutes, and Matt (who is generally not a big talker) talked the entire time we walked. He and Becca just returned from a two-week trip to China with a group of professors from the university where Matt is working on his Ph.D. in family and marriage therapy, so he talked quite a bit about their trip. He talked about my health and told me how great I look now ... again, for those of you who don't know, I've lost more than 80 pounds. He talked about the Big 12 basketball controversy, his dreams for the future, and reminisced about some funny experiences from his youth.
Nothing heavy, nothing life-changing, nothing earth-shattering in our conversation, and yet it was an incredibly sweet time with my son ... one that will definitely go into the "Matt" folder. As we walked and I listened to Matt, my heart was filled with unspeakable love for this young man, my firstborn son ... the little boy who tried to teach our wiener dog Choo Choo to swim in the toilet is now a man, a husband, a caring and loving gentleman who will, I'm certain, do big things in his lifetime to help others.
As we rounded the corner to walk into my driveway, I found myself thinking about my relationship with God's Son ... about the way He loves me, cares for me and protects me. About the sacrifice He made for me on the cross. About His limitless and boundless forgiveness and grace.
So, tonight I went son walking ... with Matt and with Jesus. And I wouldn't trade those 45 minutes for all the wealth in the world.
We walked for about 45 minutes, and Matt (who is generally not a big talker) talked the entire time we walked. He and Becca just returned from a two-week trip to China with a group of professors from the university where Matt is working on his Ph.D. in family and marriage therapy, so he talked quite a bit about their trip. He talked about my health and told me how great I look now ... again, for those of you who don't know, I've lost more than 80 pounds. He talked about the Big 12 basketball controversy, his dreams for the future, and reminisced about some funny experiences from his youth.
Nothing heavy, nothing life-changing, nothing earth-shattering in our conversation, and yet it was an incredibly sweet time with my son ... one that will definitely go into the "Matt" folder. As we walked and I listened to Matt, my heart was filled with unspeakable love for this young man, my firstborn son ... the little boy who tried to teach our wiener dog Choo Choo to swim in the toilet is now a man, a husband, a caring and loving gentleman who will, I'm certain, do big things in his lifetime to help others.
As we rounded the corner to walk into my driveway, I found myself thinking about my relationship with God's Son ... about the way He loves me, cares for me and protects me. About the sacrifice He made for me on the cross. About His limitless and boundless forgiveness and grace.
So, tonight I went son walking ... with Matt and with Jesus. And I wouldn't trade those 45 minutes for all the wealth in the world.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Seventy Times Seven
I'm so sorry ... can you please forgive me? Ever said those words? Ever heard those words? I have, on both counts. And as much as it pains me to say it, I've had to offer an apology far more times than I've had to accept one. Think about that last sentence for a moment ... I've had to say I was sorry and ask for forgiveness far more often than I've had to hear someone apologize to me and ask me to forgive them. If ever there was a sentence ... a thought ... a moment ... that could and should bring about some self-analysis, that one would be it.
On those rare occasions when I am on the receiving end of an apology (translated ... the few times when I'm not the one who goofs things up royally), I always feel awkward, out of place, like I should just kick the dirt under my shoe and look down at the ground and say, "Awww, shucks, it's OK. No apology necessary." Funny, though, when I'm the one doing the apologizing, I want the other person to feel my pain, to really listen to me, to appreciate the sincerity and depth of my remorse, to forgive me so that I am absolved of my guilt and able to move forward.
I've been doing a lot of pondering about forgiveness lately ... about what it means to forgive another person, about what it means to be forgiven by someone, about what it means to be forgiven by God, about what it means to forgive myself. And in that pondering, I've come to realize that it's not hard for me to forgive another person when I feel their apology is sincere ... key words being "I feel." While I can come up with all kinds of "reasons" for only forgiving another when I deem the person worthy, none of them even begin to measure up to the standard set for me in God's Word.
In Matthew 18, Peter comes to Jesus and asks how many times he needs to forgive someone who has wronged him. Good old Peter thinks he's going the extra mile by asking Jesus if seven times to forgive is good enough. Can you imagine how shocked Peter was when Jesus says, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven."
I'm pretty sure that Jesus wasn't saying Peter needed to count how many times he forgave and stop at 491. I think he was making the point to Peter that our forgiveness of others should far exceed the customary level of forgiveness, that it should be boundless, limitless and unconditional. I think Jesus was saying to forgive and forgive and forgive and then forgive again.
So my prayer tonight? That you would teach me, Lord, all over again, that Your forgiveness has no timeline, no boundaries, no limits, no conditions, no fee, no ceiling. That I would remember that because I am forgiven by You, I must forgive others ... not once, not twice, but seventy times seven.
On those rare occasions when I am on the receiving end of an apology (translated ... the few times when I'm not the one who goofs things up royally), I always feel awkward, out of place, like I should just kick the dirt under my shoe and look down at the ground and say, "Awww, shucks, it's OK. No apology necessary." Funny, though, when I'm the one doing the apologizing, I want the other person to feel my pain, to really listen to me, to appreciate the sincerity and depth of my remorse, to forgive me so that I am absolved of my guilt and able to move forward.
I've been doing a lot of pondering about forgiveness lately ... about what it means to forgive another person, about what it means to be forgiven by someone, about what it means to be forgiven by God, about what it means to forgive myself. And in that pondering, I've come to realize that it's not hard for me to forgive another person when I feel their apology is sincere ... key words being "I feel." While I can come up with all kinds of "reasons" for only forgiving another when I deem the person worthy, none of them even begin to measure up to the standard set for me in God's Word.
In Matthew 18, Peter comes to Jesus and asks how many times he needs to forgive someone who has wronged him. Good old Peter thinks he's going the extra mile by asking Jesus if seven times to forgive is good enough. Can you imagine how shocked Peter was when Jesus says, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven."
I'm pretty sure that Jesus wasn't saying Peter needed to count how many times he forgave and stop at 491. I think he was making the point to Peter that our forgiveness of others should far exceed the customary level of forgiveness, that it should be boundless, limitless and unconditional. I think Jesus was saying to forgive and forgive and forgive and then forgive again.
So my prayer tonight? That you would teach me, Lord, all over again, that Your forgiveness has no timeline, no boundaries, no limits, no conditions, no fee, no ceiling. That I would remember that because I am forgiven by You, I must forgive others ... not once, not twice, but seventy times seven.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Sweet Hour of Prayer
One of the unusual side effects of my diabetes journey is that I don't sleep as much as I previously did. Part of that, I think, is because I have more energy now and just require less sleep to function. Part of it, as much as I hate to admit it, may actually have very little to do with diabetes and more to do with the fact that I'm getting older. Nah ... that can't be the reason; it has to be the diabetes!
Last night was a stormy night here in Kansas City, and when I went to bed I thought, "It's a great night for sleeping." But, as often happens, after three hours of sleep, I was wide awake. After a trip to the bathroom, letting J.R. go outside and eating some peanut butter, I headed back to bed. Most nights when I wake up like that, I toss and turn for a while and eventually go to sleep again. But last night ... well, last night was different.
With J.R. and Julie snuggled in close to me because of the lightning and thunder, I began to pray out loud in my bed. My prayer was pretty generic at first ... you know the type I'm talking about ... thanks for everything, don't let the storm blow my house down, protect my kids. Just as I thought I was going to drift off to sleep, I felt compelled to get out of bed and get on my knees. And even though I'm often not, this time I was obedient to that still small voice and got up and knelt by the side of my bed.
Almost from the moment my knees touched the floor, I recalled the words of a friend from a couple of nights before encouraging me to listen more to what God was saying to me and less to the opinions or advice of other people. With tears rolling down my face, I began to ask ... no, I began to beg God to speak to me, to lead me, to guide me, to direct my steps, to show me His will, to wash me, to cleanse me, to humble me, to use me, to send me. Before I even realized it, I had shifted from my knees to being stretched out face down on the floor. But even more than the change in my posture was the change in my heart ... instead of asking, I was listening, really listening to my Lord.
When I finally climbed back into bed, an hour had passed. A sweet hour, indeed. A sweet hour of prayer. I'd say it was time well spent.
Last night was a stormy night here in Kansas City, and when I went to bed I thought, "It's a great night for sleeping." But, as often happens, after three hours of sleep, I was wide awake. After a trip to the bathroom, letting J.R. go outside and eating some peanut butter, I headed back to bed. Most nights when I wake up like that, I toss and turn for a while and eventually go to sleep again. But last night ... well, last night was different.
With J.R. and Julie snuggled in close to me because of the lightning and thunder, I began to pray out loud in my bed. My prayer was pretty generic at first ... you know the type I'm talking about ... thanks for everything, don't let the storm blow my house down, protect my kids. Just as I thought I was going to drift off to sleep, I felt compelled to get out of bed and get on my knees. And even though I'm often not, this time I was obedient to that still small voice and got up and knelt by the side of my bed.
Almost from the moment my knees touched the floor, I recalled the words of a friend from a couple of nights before encouraging me to listen more to what God was saying to me and less to the opinions or advice of other people. With tears rolling down my face, I began to ask ... no, I began to beg God to speak to me, to lead me, to guide me, to direct my steps, to show me His will, to wash me, to cleanse me, to humble me, to use me, to send me. Before I even realized it, I had shifted from my knees to being stretched out face down on the floor. But even more than the change in my posture was the change in my heart ... instead of asking, I was listening, really listening to my Lord.
When I finally climbed back into bed, an hour had passed. A sweet hour, indeed. A sweet hour of prayer. I'd say it was time well spent.
Monday, June 7, 2010
Point Being
When I began writing this blog a couple of years ago, I never anticipated the responsibility that would come with putting my thoughts "out there" for a multitude of people to read and peruse. And I never anticipated that people would begin copying the blog link and putting it on their Facebook pages or sending it out to all their email contacts. And I never anticipated that I would be flooded with emails offering commentary, both positive and negative, concerning my subject matter, style of writing, color of the blog background ... you name it, and I've gotten comments about it. And I never anticipated that God would drive me over the last few months to blog and blog and blog some more.
While several entries have drawn significant responses (including one that garnered over 2,000 emails), my previous post has generated a great deal of unexpected feedback. Because of the content of some of that feedback, I feel the need to expand a bit on my "The Face of Hate" entry.
From the very start of penning this blog, I felt that I should be open, honest, transparent, if you will ... writing from my heart, holding nothing back, sharing both the joys and struggles that I encounter in my day-to-day walk along the path of life. And, in that quest for openness and honesty, the last year or so has brought with it ... well, some twists and turns that I didn't expect or see coming. Some physical challenges in regard to my diabetes, some emotional highs and lows in dealing with living alone now that my children are all grown and have moved out, and some spiritual rough patches brought about by events and situations that have caused me to question at times how real my faith is and how deeply I hold and know the truth of God's Word.
My point in writing "The Face of Hate" was that we all have sin in our lives ... not one of us is perfect; not one of us is truly holy; not one of us has the right to judge another. And yet, I often think that we as Christians ... those of us who claim to mirror our lives after Jesus Christ ... are the ones to cast the first stone toward others whom we deem as sinners because of their speech, their addictions, their sexual orientation, their income level ... you choose the tag or label. Though we are called to love without strings, we don't. Plain and simple ... gut honest ... we don't love people the way we are commanded by Jesus himself to love. We've lost the concept of "hate the sin but love the sinner" as a general rule, until those "sinners" become someone dear to us. It suddenly becomes hard to hate someone who is gay when that someone is your best friend, your sister, your uncle. It's hard to hate the hidden drug addict who is your neighbor, the person sitting next to you at church, your child.
God has more than abundantly blessed me with family and friends who love me no matter what I am doing or what I have done. People who don't judge me, even though they know the dirt in my life. And trust me (for those of you who commented about me being a Christian speaker and therefore should never sin), there is dirt ... there will always be dirt because I will always be human until I reach heaven and God makes me completely pure. And so much more important than the love I receive from my family and friends is the love that God showers on me ... unconditional, undeserved, unlimited.
So my point being? The Scripture that says, "Judge not lest you be judged," isn't in the Bible by accident. And the Bible is complete and total truth, every single word. I should be eternally grateful that God never ever wears the face of hate ... and the truth is ... I shouldn't wear it either, ever.
"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another." John 13:34.
That, my friends, says it all.
While several entries have drawn significant responses (including one that garnered over 2,000 emails), my previous post has generated a great deal of unexpected feedback. Because of the content of some of that feedback, I feel the need to expand a bit on my "The Face of Hate" entry.
From the very start of penning this blog, I felt that I should be open, honest, transparent, if you will ... writing from my heart, holding nothing back, sharing both the joys and struggles that I encounter in my day-to-day walk along the path of life. And, in that quest for openness and honesty, the last year or so has brought with it ... well, some twists and turns that I didn't expect or see coming. Some physical challenges in regard to my diabetes, some emotional highs and lows in dealing with living alone now that my children are all grown and have moved out, and some spiritual rough patches brought about by events and situations that have caused me to question at times how real my faith is and how deeply I hold and know the truth of God's Word.
My point in writing "The Face of Hate" was that we all have sin in our lives ... not one of us is perfect; not one of us is truly holy; not one of us has the right to judge another. And yet, I often think that we as Christians ... those of us who claim to mirror our lives after Jesus Christ ... are the ones to cast the first stone toward others whom we deem as sinners because of their speech, their addictions, their sexual orientation, their income level ... you choose the tag or label. Though we are called to love without strings, we don't. Plain and simple ... gut honest ... we don't love people the way we are commanded by Jesus himself to love. We've lost the concept of "hate the sin but love the sinner" as a general rule, until those "sinners" become someone dear to us. It suddenly becomes hard to hate someone who is gay when that someone is your best friend, your sister, your uncle. It's hard to hate the hidden drug addict who is your neighbor, the person sitting next to you at church, your child.
God has more than abundantly blessed me with family and friends who love me no matter what I am doing or what I have done. People who don't judge me, even though they know the dirt in my life. And trust me (for those of you who commented about me being a Christian speaker and therefore should never sin), there is dirt ... there will always be dirt because I will always be human until I reach heaven and God makes me completely pure. And so much more important than the love I receive from my family and friends is the love that God showers on me ... unconditional, undeserved, unlimited.
So my point being? The Scripture that says, "Judge not lest you be judged," isn't in the Bible by accident. And the Bible is complete and total truth, every single word. I should be eternally grateful that God never ever wears the face of hate ... and the truth is ... I shouldn't wear it either, ever.
"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another." John 13:34.
That, my friends, says it all.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
The Face of Hate
Some conversations have a way of searing themselves into my brain ... because of the person or people involved, because of the depth of the subject, because of the location, because of the emotion that comes forth. Whatever the reason, there are conversations that I will remember all my life. More often than not, these particular conversations make me think deeply, challenge what I believe, make me search my heart for truth or cause me to dive into the very depths of my soul to evaluate who I truly am.
This week, I've had two such conversations. One involved much emotion and many heartfelt tears ... tears of regret, tears of sorrow, tears of confession. The other dealt with a subject that divides many people, that causes lines to be drawn and sides to be taken. And interestingly, both conversations, though on different levels, were concerning the same controversial topic. And even more interesting, both conversations ended with basically the same two conclusions ... ultimately, the face of hate disappears when the issue at hand wears the face of someone I love, and God's grace covers a multitude of sins.
It's easy to label someone a despicable sinner when that person is an anonymous face in a crowd, but it is altogether different when the person is a friend, a family member or someone I attend church with. When the person is someone I love, grace, mercy and forgiveness quickly replace judgment, hostility or hate. That doesn't mean that the issue or the sin is swept under the carpet or condoned, it simply means that my response suddenly shifts to one of compassion and love. It means that my heart more closely mirrors the heart of Christ ... loving, forgiving, caring, concerned, healing.
Even as I type these words, I know there are things in my life that cause me to deserve judgment or condemnation. There are parts of me that I try desperately to keep hidden away, tucked deeply within, fearing that they will escape from the fortress I have built around them and others will see the real me, the secret me, the me who isn't holy or honorable or sinless.
And yet, those closest to me ... those whom I've allowed inside the walls I've created ... have refused to wear the face of hate but choose instead to wear the face of love. They don't hesitate to call me on my sin, but they love me still, love me completely, love me in spite of who I am. And most important of all, they encourage me, push me, pull me, tug me and point me to the heart of the One who wears the ultimate face of love, the One who paid the supreme price to make me clean, the One who knows my innermost being ... Jesus Christ.
So, go look in the mirror. What does your face look like?
This week, I've had two such conversations. One involved much emotion and many heartfelt tears ... tears of regret, tears of sorrow, tears of confession. The other dealt with a subject that divides many people, that causes lines to be drawn and sides to be taken. And interestingly, both conversations, though on different levels, were concerning the same controversial topic. And even more interesting, both conversations ended with basically the same two conclusions ... ultimately, the face of hate disappears when the issue at hand wears the face of someone I love, and God's grace covers a multitude of sins.
It's easy to label someone a despicable sinner when that person is an anonymous face in a crowd, but it is altogether different when the person is a friend, a family member or someone I attend church with. When the person is someone I love, grace, mercy and forgiveness quickly replace judgment, hostility or hate. That doesn't mean that the issue or the sin is swept under the carpet or condoned, it simply means that my response suddenly shifts to one of compassion and love. It means that my heart more closely mirrors the heart of Christ ... loving, forgiving, caring, concerned, healing.
Even as I type these words, I know there are things in my life that cause me to deserve judgment or condemnation. There are parts of me that I try desperately to keep hidden away, tucked deeply within, fearing that they will escape from the fortress I have built around them and others will see the real me, the secret me, the me who isn't holy or honorable or sinless.
And yet, those closest to me ... those whom I've allowed inside the walls I've created ... have refused to wear the face of hate but choose instead to wear the face of love. They don't hesitate to call me on my sin, but they love me still, love me completely, love me in spite of who I am. And most important of all, they encourage me, push me, pull me, tug me and point me to the heart of the One who wears the ultimate face of love, the One who paid the supreme price to make me clean, the One who knows my innermost being ... Jesus Christ.
So, go look in the mirror. What does your face look like?
Friday, June 4, 2010
Water Dog
Down through the years, I've had several dogs ... Frisky, Rocky, Brandy, Choo Choo (my oldest son named this poor dog!), Cocoa, Cinnamon, Ali, and now I have Julie and J.R. Out of all of those canines I shared life with, I've never had a dog who loved to play like Julie. And I've never had a dog who loved the water as much as she does. She loves to swim and play in the water hose ... she even jumps in the tub, wagging her tail and barking for me to turn on the water.
Yesterday, a friend and her two youngest children and I took Julie to the off-leash dog park near my house. As is always the case when I take Julie there, she couldn't get to the small lake in the park fast enough. And when she got there, she didn't waste any time in going for a swim. I have one of those tennis ball launchers, and the kids delighted in tossing the ball out into the water for Julie to retrieve. We spent about an hour there by the lake, and I'm not quite sure who had the most fun ... Julie, the kiddos or me and my friend as we watched.
It was a beautiful day ... clear blue skies and not too hot. As I sat on the bench watching the kids and Julie play, I was struck by how happy they all were. In fact, they were more than happy, they were joyous. The kids were laughing and having a great time, and Julie's tail never stopped wagging the entire time. Pure, complete and total joy for each of them.
As I spent time reading God's Word last night, I couldn't help but think that God had taught me yet another lesson earlier that day at the dog park. He wants me to be excited about spending time with Him. He wants me to run as fast as I can to the water of His grace. He wants me to swim out and retrieve His mercy when He tosses it to me. He wants me to feel the warmth of His love in my heart and soul. He wants me to experience pure, complete and total joy when I am in His presence.
I'm thinking I should make more trips to the dog park, and I'm thinking I should watch and listen to more ... so much more ... than my dog.
Yesterday, a friend and her two youngest children and I took Julie to the off-leash dog park near my house. As is always the case when I take Julie there, she couldn't get to the small lake in the park fast enough. And when she got there, she didn't waste any time in going for a swim. I have one of those tennis ball launchers, and the kids delighted in tossing the ball out into the water for Julie to retrieve. We spent about an hour there by the lake, and I'm not quite sure who had the most fun ... Julie, the kiddos or me and my friend as we watched.
It was a beautiful day ... clear blue skies and not too hot. As I sat on the bench watching the kids and Julie play, I was struck by how happy they all were. In fact, they were more than happy, they were joyous. The kids were laughing and having a great time, and Julie's tail never stopped wagging the entire time. Pure, complete and total joy for each of them.
As I spent time reading God's Word last night, I couldn't help but think that God had taught me yet another lesson earlier that day at the dog park. He wants me to be excited about spending time with Him. He wants me to run as fast as I can to the water of His grace. He wants me to swim out and retrieve His mercy when He tosses it to me. He wants me to feel the warmth of His love in my heart and soul. He wants me to experience pure, complete and total joy when I am in His presence.
I'm thinking I should make more trips to the dog park, and I'm thinking I should watch and listen to more ... so much more ... than my dog.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Do-over
Remember when you were a kid playing with your friends and someone wouldn't like the way things were going and would shout, "Do-over, do-over, I need a do-over!" And after some discussion ... OK, after intense arguing ... the person who had made a wrong move or play would either get their do-over and the game would proceed, or the person would quit the game, storm off angrily and ruin the fun for everyone else.
As an adult, I've often thought how awesome it would be if I could have a do-over at times in my life. Times when I spoke in anger and hurt another person; times when I made a poor choice that lived on to affect not only me but those I loved for years to follow; times when my behavior or actions were anything but Christlike or godly. I can't help but wonder what path my life would have taken had I been allowed to back up, start over and do things differently from time to time.
Perhaps the greatest dilemma of all presents itself in the questions that are begged from this introspection ... why do I continue to make the same mistakes over and over again? Why do I not listen to the ones God places in my life to give me guidance and direction and to steer me away from dangerous situations? Why do I make choices that I know will cause me or others pain or heartache? Why do I knowingly and willingly choose to sin? Why do I ... why do I ... why do I?
I've been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately, about grace, about mercy. I've been thinking a lot about the ways I dishonor the Savior whom I claim to serve. I've been thinking a lot about integrity, character and purity. I've been thinking a lot about confession and honesty and repentance. I've been thinking a lot about needing a do-over in certain areas of my life. And I've come to the conclusion that the truth is that God offers me a do-over every single morning ... a clean slate to start the day. He stands waiting for me to take Him up on that offer ... to fall on my knees, to weep before Him, to tell Him I am nothing without Him, to throw myself on His grace, to embrace His mercy, to beg His forgiveness.
So here's the deal, God ... I need a major do-over. I need that clean slate. I need a new start. I need You, Lord, more than anything or anyone else ... I need You.
As an adult, I've often thought how awesome it would be if I could have a do-over at times in my life. Times when I spoke in anger and hurt another person; times when I made a poor choice that lived on to affect not only me but those I loved for years to follow; times when my behavior or actions were anything but Christlike or godly. I can't help but wonder what path my life would have taken had I been allowed to back up, start over and do things differently from time to time.
Perhaps the greatest dilemma of all presents itself in the questions that are begged from this introspection ... why do I continue to make the same mistakes over and over again? Why do I not listen to the ones God places in my life to give me guidance and direction and to steer me away from dangerous situations? Why do I make choices that I know will cause me or others pain or heartache? Why do I knowingly and willingly choose to sin? Why do I ... why do I ... why do I?
I've been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately, about grace, about mercy. I've been thinking a lot about the ways I dishonor the Savior whom I claim to serve. I've been thinking a lot about integrity, character and purity. I've been thinking a lot about confession and honesty and repentance. I've been thinking a lot about needing a do-over in certain areas of my life. And I've come to the conclusion that the truth is that God offers me a do-over every single morning ... a clean slate to start the day. He stands waiting for me to take Him up on that offer ... to fall on my knees, to weep before Him, to tell Him I am nothing without Him, to throw myself on His grace, to embrace His mercy, to beg His forgiveness.
So here's the deal, God ... I need a major do-over. I need that clean slate. I need a new start. I need You, Lord, more than anything or anyone else ... I need You.
Monday, May 31, 2010
Get Real
A few years ago, I spent some time teaching senior high Sunday School when my son Matt was in high school. I look back on those years with such fondness ... the kids were such a great group, and I had a blast working with them. We had some truly awesome times together ... a ski trip to Colorado, breakfasts at my little house (packed with 20 or more hungry teenagers!), a class one Sunday when the kids washed each others' feet ... so many wondrous memories for me, and hopefully for the young people who are now adults themselves.
One of the things that struck me in working with the youth was how they seemed to always have certain "catch phrases" that they would say over and over in their conversations. Word combinations like, "Get a life," "Check it out, dude," or "Gimme a break." Over the last few weeks, one particular phrase that the kids often used has returned to my mind and caused me to contemplate who I am and what I hold to be true in my life.
Whenever someone in the group was thinking too highly of themselves or demonstrating questionable behavior or pretending to be something they weren't, invariably one of the kids would say, "Get real." Once again, two little words with huge meaning and impact that have taken on new truth for me even years later. In fact, I woke up this morning thinking, "Am I real? Is my life one of integrity? Am I who I say I am? Do I keep certain things in my life hidden away and hope that no one will ever find me out? Am I really honestly completely and totally real? And if I do get real, will the people in my life still love me? Will they love the real me, the me that is tucked away, the me that at times is not very pretty or loving?"
As I ponder and think and meditate on and contemplate those questions, there are other questions that storm into my consciousness and demand my undivided attention. They are the real questions, the important questions, the questions that override all the others. Am I real with God? Am I trying to play a game with Him concerning certain areas of my life? Am I honest with Him? Am I listening to Him?
Make me real, God ... whatever that means, wherever that takes me, however you need to work on me, whenever you choose to humble me ... please, God, make me real.
One of the things that struck me in working with the youth was how they seemed to always have certain "catch phrases" that they would say over and over in their conversations. Word combinations like, "Get a life," "Check it out, dude," or "Gimme a break." Over the last few weeks, one particular phrase that the kids often used has returned to my mind and caused me to contemplate who I am and what I hold to be true in my life.
Whenever someone in the group was thinking too highly of themselves or demonstrating questionable behavior or pretending to be something they weren't, invariably one of the kids would say, "Get real." Once again, two little words with huge meaning and impact that have taken on new truth for me even years later. In fact, I woke up this morning thinking, "Am I real? Is my life one of integrity? Am I who I say I am? Do I keep certain things in my life hidden away and hope that no one will ever find me out? Am I really honestly completely and totally real? And if I do get real, will the people in my life still love me? Will they love the real me, the me that is tucked away, the me that at times is not very pretty or loving?"
As I ponder and think and meditate on and contemplate those questions, there are other questions that storm into my consciousness and demand my undivided attention. They are the real questions, the important questions, the questions that override all the others. Am I real with God? Am I trying to play a game with Him concerning certain areas of my life? Am I honest with Him? Am I listening to Him?
Make me real, God ... whatever that means, wherever that takes me, however you need to work on me, whenever you choose to humble me ... please, God, make me real.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Truth or Dare
Some things never change. Things like playing the game Truth or Dare if you're a high school or college student. I played it, and so did my children. And kids from now on will probably play it. It's one of those timeless games, maybe even approaching Monopoly status in its longevity and appeal. I've often wondered if perhaps part of the lure of Truth or Dare is the potential danger involved if one chooses the dare challenge without knowing what that dare may be.
One particular game of Truth or Dare I participated in when I was in college is forever etched in my brain. I was with a group of friends, and we were out on a Friday night at a park on Missionary Ridge. I opted for the dare, and my challenge was to spray paint some graffiti on one of the overpasses that connected two parts of the ridge across one of the major interstates in Chattanooga. I allowed two of the guys in the group to hold my legs and dangle me over the edge of the bridge while I painted the concrete beneath me ... upside down over six lanes of interstate with the traffic speeding by beneath me. Definitely not one of the smarter things I've done in my life, and now that I'm an adult, I can't believe I willingly put myself in that kind of danger.
You'd think I would have learned some lessons along the way when it comes to choosing between truth or dare. You'd think I would have learned that the danger in going with the dare option could be so great it could destroy me. You'd think I would automatically choose to know the truth, follow the truth, live the truth. And yet, more often than I'd like to admit, I choose the dare, knowingly putting myself into dangerous situations.
I can't help but wonder how God feels about my choices at times ... I think He must shake His head, His eyes filling with tears, as I wander down a different path than He desires. And I also can't help but wonder why His patience with me seems to know no boundaries, no matter where I go or what I do, He always waits for me to return, hat in hand ... broken, humbled, on my knees.
My prayer? That when I'm tempted to let someone dangle me over speeding traffic ... when I'm tempted to hang over the interstate, paint can in hand ... I'll think twice and choose the truth over the dare.
One particular game of Truth or Dare I participated in when I was in college is forever etched in my brain. I was with a group of friends, and we were out on a Friday night at a park on Missionary Ridge. I opted for the dare, and my challenge was to spray paint some graffiti on one of the overpasses that connected two parts of the ridge across one of the major interstates in Chattanooga. I allowed two of the guys in the group to hold my legs and dangle me over the edge of the bridge while I painted the concrete beneath me ... upside down over six lanes of interstate with the traffic speeding by beneath me. Definitely not one of the smarter things I've done in my life, and now that I'm an adult, I can't believe I willingly put myself in that kind of danger.
You'd think I would have learned some lessons along the way when it comes to choosing between truth or dare. You'd think I would have learned that the danger in going with the dare option could be so great it could destroy me. You'd think I would automatically choose to know the truth, follow the truth, live the truth. And yet, more often than I'd like to admit, I choose the dare, knowingly putting myself into dangerous situations.
I can't help but wonder how God feels about my choices at times ... I think He must shake His head, His eyes filling with tears, as I wander down a different path than He desires. And I also can't help but wonder why His patience with me seems to know no boundaries, no matter where I go or what I do, He always waits for me to return, hat in hand ... broken, humbled, on my knees.
My prayer? That when I'm tempted to let someone dangle me over speeding traffic ... when I'm tempted to hang over the interstate, paint can in hand ... I'll think twice and choose the truth over the dare.
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