What I Should Have Said

A few nights ago when I couldn't sleep, I decided I would try to make a dent in the mountain of unread emails in my inbox. As is always the case, there were some that were positive and encouraging and some that were just plain old mean. It was after reading one particularly scathing rant about me burning in hell for all eternity that I decided I'd read enough for one night and was getting ready to close my email when the notification of a new email popped up. I sat with my finger on the button trying to decide whether to read it or not as I said aloud to the empty air around me,"Maybe I should read just one more ... maybe just one more." And with that, I clicked open the email and began reading ... I began reading a letter from a mom whose daughter had committed suicide on the night of her 17th birthday. The woman's words were heart-wrenching ... absolutely heart-wrenching as she painted a perfect picture of the young woman who was her daughter, and I wept as I read. Their story is one I've read too many times over the last couple of years ... far, far, far too many times, my friends ... too many young lives lost, too many grieving parents left behind.

While all of the woman's words were powerful and touching, there was one paragraph that left me reeling ...

"There are so many things I should have said to her. I should have said it was okay to be who she was. That I knew. That she could tell me. That it didn't matter. I should have said I loved her. That nothing could ever keep me from loving her. That she was perfect just the way she was. There are so many things I should have said that I will never have the chance to say now. My beautiful daughter is gone because I didn't say what I should have said."

Regret is such a tough thing ... perhaps one of the toughest things in life to deal with. The standard dictionary definition of regret is "the feeling of sadness, repentance or disappointment over something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity." The last two words of that definition are particularly haunting to me ... missed opportunity. One of the biggest regrets of my life is that I didn't have "that" conversation with my mom and dad ... I should have talked to them about who I am. I had countless opportunities both when I was young and as I grew older, but I never said what I should have said to my parents. I should have trusted their love for me ... I should have believed in them ... I should have told them the truth. But like the mother who will never have the opportunity to say what she should have said to her daughter, I will never get to say what I should have said to Mom and Dad ... and I will regret it for the rest of my life.

I've read a lot of letters over the last couple of years from a lot of hurting people ... from teenagers who are afraid to go to school because of the names they are called ... from middle-aged folks who are terrified of what they might lose if they tell the truth ... from senior citizens who have lived in hiding their entire lives. I've read letters from children who have lost their parents and parents who have lost their children. I've read letters from people who are sick, people who are lonely, people who are overweight, people who are struggling in their marriage, people who are gay, people who are straight, people who are depressed ... I've read a lot of letters from a lot of hurting people. Take a guess as to how many of those letters are laced with regret ... how many of them contain the words, "I'm sorry I didn't ..." ... how many of them are filled with the words they should have said.

Say what you need to say, friends ... say what you need to say to the people you love before it's too late. Don't let what you need to say become what you should have said.

Stepping on the Clean

As I'm sure is true of many of us who are parents of adult children, sometimes I think back to when my kiddos were young and wish I would have done some things differently. For the most part, I think I was an okay mom ... at least I tried to be anyway ... but there are definitely some things I wouldn't mind having a do-over on. Some of the things I was so adamant about back then were just ... well ... stupid things that in the grand scheme of things weren't nearly as important as I thought they were. I wish I would have spent a heck of a lot more time listening to my kids ... really, really listening to my children ... more time playing with my children ... more time reading with my children ... instead of worrying about whether or not the house was clean. Back then, I was way too focused on the way things looked on the outside than the way they really were on the inside ... go ahead and chew on that for a bit ... I'm talking about way, way, way more than my house being clean, friends ... way, way, way more. Yep, there are definitely some things I wish I would have done differently when my kids were younger.

My son Brad along with some of my friends at work have been telling me forever that I needed to sign up for Netflix, and I finally succumbed to both peer and son pressure ... that's right, I now officially have a Netflix account. Since I'm like the last person in the world to finally get Netflix, I'm sure most of you have heard about the original Netflix series Orange is the New Black. It's a show about women in prison ... and it's intense, funny, emotional and raunchy all at the same time. It took less than one episode of watching for me to become completely and totally hooked, and I now fully understand what the term "binge TV watching" means ... boy, do I. I'm not sure what I'll do when I get through all of the first two seasons and then have to wait for new episodes to come out each week ... ugghh.

There are some truly interesting characters on the show, but one of my favorites is an African-American gal who is nicknamed Crazy Eyes. I spent the first few episodes thinking she was just over-the-top insane, but as the show progressed and more was revealed about her, I realized that she's actually a very intelligent woman with a good heart. I'm not far enough along to know what crime she committed that resulted in her incarceration, so don't spoil it for me by telling me if she is like the worst serial killer ever in the history of the universe. Just when I was convinced that all of the scenes featuring Miss Crazy Eyes would be at least somewhat comedic in nature, one of the episodes I watched last night was anything but funny. It was so powerful and conveyed such raw emotion that I haven't been able to get it out of my mind.

The scene takes place in a prison restroom when Crazy Eyes comes in to mop the floor and encounters a fellow inmate ... a fellow inmate whose boyfriend had appeared on a radio talk show and told the world that Crazy Eyes was ... well ... certifiably crazy and should be in an institution. When she walked into the restroom and saw Piper, her fellow inmate who had betrayed her trust, I fully expected Crazy Eyes to beat the crap out of her. But instead, she simply told Piper she was a mean person ... that she wasn't nice and that she was mean. As both Piper and Crazy Eyes mopped their respective parts of the floor, Crazy Eyes spoke the words that now refuse to release their grip on me.

"You gotta start from the inside out, or else you'll step on the clean."

Here's the thing ... I've done an awful lot of stepping on the clean over the years because I was mopping the wrong way. I've stepped on the clean over and over and over again because I wasn't starting in the right place ... I wasn't mopping from the inside out. And my guess is ... my guess is I'm not the only one who needs to change the way I mop ... my guess I'm not the only one who's stepping on the clean, friends ... my guess is I'm not the only one at all.

"You gotta start from the inside out, or else you'll step on the clean."

Cheers to the Copycats

It's hard for me to believe that I've been working in the advertising biz for more than 17 years ... that's more years than some of you have been alive. I'm not sure which is more astounding to me ... the fact that I've worked in the ad world for that many years or that so many of my readers are young folks. I've seen a ton of changes in the way businesses market themselves since I first started out as a proofreader all those years ago, not the least of which is the incredibly fast-paced explosion of social media as a means to share information. If you know anything at all about Facebook or Twitter or Reddit or any of the gazillion other social sites, you know that it doesn't take long for things to spread like wildfire once they are posted. Trust me, I know that to be true ... boy, do I ever know that to be true in a big, huge, gigantic way.

When I was in Canada at Christmas visiting my oldest son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter, it didn't take me long to become completely enamored with some of the adorably precious things she would say. Okay, okay ... I loved every single word that came out of her mouth and still do ... duh. One night as I was sitting on the couch with Matt and Becca after C.J. had gone to bed, I logged into Facebook to see what was going on with everyone back in the states (that's what the Canadians call the U.S., you know ... the states). On a whim, I decided to post a simple conversation C.J. and I had earlier in the day ... one that ended with her saying, "I Ghee's buddy." I was so surprised when the number of "Likes" on my status began to climb ... and climb ... and climb ... people loved it. That simple post began what has now evolved into weekly posts recounting parts of my weekly Skype conversations with my precious C.J. And people love them; in fact, I've started getting messages asking me to put my "Chats with Boo" into a book ... maybe that's not such a bad idea, eh?

Recently I've noticed that quite a few of my Facebook friends have been posting status updates that are quite similar to my chats with C.J. ... conversations with their kids or grandkids. If they had been doing those kinds of updates before, I never noticed it ... and my initial reaction was ... well ... ummm ... I was a wee bit irritated that they were copying my idea. Actually, that's kind of an understatement ... I was stinking ticked off that they were stealing my awesomely original and incredibly genius idea. But the more of the conversational updates I read, the more I realized that it was really pretty darned cool that other people had been inspired by my chats with C.J. ... inspired enough to perhaps pay a little more attention to their own conversations with the little guys and gals in their lives.

You see, here's the thing ... I've gone from arrogance to humility in regard to my Facebook status updates with my baby girl C.J. It doesn't matter whose idea was whose first or who recounts the most clever or humorous stories ... all that matters is that families and friends talk to one another ... that families and friends listen to one another ... that families and friends love one another. That's why people like my conversations with Boo ... because they know those chats are about love.

Cheers to the copycats ... cheers to the copycats, indeed.

Not the Best You

It's never good to start a Wednesday thinking it's Saturday ... especially if thinking Wednesday is Saturday involves turning off my alarm and waking up 30 minutes before I needed to be in my car driving to work. I'm not talking hitting the snooze button a few times so I could sleep an extra 10-15 minutes ... nope ... I'm talking completely turning off the alarm because I thought today was Saturday and sleeping an extra hour. Honestly, I'm surprised I woke up when I did considering how much I tossed and turned during the night ... stuffy nose, bad dreams, snoring dogs, trains whistling, owls hooting ... suffice it to say it was one of those nights when I was awake more than I was asleep. So I say again ... I'm surprised I woke up when I did. Thank God for dogs who needed to pee, I suppose, or I probably would have slept until noon. Surprisingly, I wasn't a complete grump today ... at least I don't think I was anyway. Normally, a sleepless night plus a stress-filled morning turn me into a snippy, jerky ... well ... suffice it to say that's the perfect combo for making me not be the best me.

Today, one of my friends at work told me I had something in my teeth, and another friend fixed the twisted collar on my shirt. Neither of them told me I had a booger in my nose, so I'm assuming I was booger-free for the duration of the workday (which is always a good thing, by the way). Come on ... you know you've been there, too ... you've had one of those days when you had crap in your teeth or your fly was unzipped or you smelled bad or your clothes didn't match or you had a giant booger dangling from your nose or all kinds of other moments when you weren't on your game or looking your best. While it's embarrassing to be told that your toupee is crooked or you have dirt on the seat of your pants, thank God for friends who tell us those things, eh? Everyone should have at least one friend who won't hesitate to step up and tell you stuff like that ... everyone should have at least one friend who will look you in the eye and tell you when something's not right.

As you well know if you've been reading along with me for a while, sometimes I get in a funk ... and when I do, I'm not a very fun person to be around. I've learned that those funks are sometimes the result of circumstances or events, but sometimes they are painful reminders that depression is a nasty beast that can choose to rear its massively ugly head when I least expect it. And truth be told, when I'm in that place, it doesn't really matter what sent me there ... it just matters that I'm there. Most people know when I'm in funk land ... I stop talking ... I stop smiling ... I stop interacting pretty much altogether. My instinct is to crawl way down inside my cave and hunker down and hope it passes quickly. Want to know a secret? There are times when living in the cave feels so much safer than living outside in the jungle. Go ahead ... chew on that one for a bit ... it's deep.

Last week, a friend stepped up and told me some hard things about my cave ... she told me my cave didn't look good on me. Actually, she told me to stop feeling sorry for myself ... she told me that my moping around and not talking to anyone wasn't my best me. Yep, my friend looked me right in the eye and said, "This isn't your best you, Terrie ... this isn't who everyone counts on you to be. Not your best you, friend ... not your best you at all." I wish I could say that I walked away from that conversation happy that my friend said what she did, but that wouldn't be the truth. The truth is that her words stung and I was flat out ticked off at her for ... I was ticked off because she ... because she was dead-on right and I needed to hear every single word she said. I didn't sleep well that night either ... I didn't sleep well that night because I knew in the depths of my heart that my friend was totally and completely right.

Something tells me maybe tonight I'll sleep better ... and maybe tomorrow when I wake up, it will be Thursday and I'll be the best Terrie I can be all day long. 

  

So About That Hug

This summer in Kansas City has been unusually cool ... with the exception of some hot and humid days here and there, it's felt more like fall than summer. I've never been a big fan of hot weather, and I'm thoroughly enjoying the pleasant temps ... especially in the evenings when Oliver the wiener dog and I head out for our nightly walks. There's not much that would get me to turn around in the middle of one of those completely perfect evening walks and go back home, but when my son Matt called last night and said my granddaughter wanted me to read her bedtime story to her, I immediately said, "I'll be on Skype in 10 minutes." I'm pretty sure Ollie thought I was losing my mind as I tugged on his leash and informed him that we were done walking ... oh, come on ... everyone knows that granddaughter trumps wiener dog every single time. I love you to pieces, Ollie dog, but Coraline will always win ... sorry, little dude.

It's crazy how just the sight of her eyes lighting up when I appear on the screen can erase my troubles ... how the sound of her laughter can lift even the heaviest burden I'm carrying ... how hearing her say, "What you do today, Ghee?" can soothe my tired and weary mind. I'm pretty sure my heart will explode from all the love and cuteness when Amelie is old enough to join in ... Ghee times two will be doubly awesome. I love every minute I get to Skype with my little C.J., but I especially love it when she hugs and kisses the laptop. She makes these adorable hugs and kisses sounds ... sweetest ... thing ... ever ... well, sweetest thing ever next to being able to get those hugs and kisses in person. There is just something so endearing, so touching, so incredibly sweet about her hugging the laptop ... it melts my heart every single time she does it.

Last week, I had a conversation with someone in my office that I haven't been able to get off my mind ... a conversation I hope I never get off my mind. A gal with whom I haven't had a lot of interaction asked me if I remembered a day last year when I went around to every person's desk and gave them a hug. My reply was swift and intelligent ... "Ummm ... maybe ... I dunno ... why?" And then she said something that I'm pretty sure will forever change the way I see the people around me ... at least I hope it does anyway. 

"I was having a really bad day that day on many levels, one of the worst days of my life. I've wanted to tell you how much your hug meant to me ... it really did mean the world to me that day. I needed that hug more than you will ever know."

So my here's the thing for tonight ... hug someone tomorrow. Or maybe hug everyone tomorrow. Or maybe hug someone every day for the rest of your life. You never know what pain someone else is living with ... you never know whose heart is breaking ... you never know how powerful and affirming a hug can be unless you hug someone. Or lots of someones. Or lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of someones. You never know whose heart you may help to mend ... you never know ... you just never know.

So about that hug ...

Scarred for Life

When my son Brad was in his early teens, he had a barefoot encounter with a stack of landscaping rocks that Matt had placed in our garage until he had time to put them around a flower bed he had designed for our backyard. I won't share all the details of that evening other than to say that Brad sliced his foot on the rocks, almost fainted in the ER, got several stitches and was on crutches for a while. Brad's a lot like me when it comes to storytelling, so it didn't take long at all for him to dub the story of that night's calamity "The Legend of Scarfoot." I can't begin to remember how many times I told the story of old Scarfoot when I used to speak at women's events, but it was definitely one of the gals' favorites for sure. The weird thing is that every other foot injury Brad's had since the landscaping rock run-in has been on ... yep, you guessed it ... Scarfoot. In fact, when I saw Brad last weekend, he was wearing flip-flops and sporting a nasty-looking injured toenail on poor Scarfoot ... something about a basketball game and a metal post. I guess it's true that boys will always be boys, eh?

I've gotten a lot of messages over the last couple of weeks asking if my finger is all healed up from the surgery I had at the end of April ... thank you for your concern and good wishes. Most of the tingling and numbness on the underside of my finger has subsided, and I've got relatively good mobility. I say relatively because I still can't curl my finger in toward my palm all the way, and the surgeon says I may never get my full range of motion back. But ... I'll take the somewhat limited range of motion over what he told me would have happened if I didn't have the surgery all day long. The only pain I have now is on the scar, and it's still so tender that it brings tears to my eyes if I bump it on something. All in all, though, I'd say I've healed up pretty well, and I think having the surgery was the right thing to do.

In thinking I should answer your notes asking about my finger, it's made me think a great deal about scars ... truth is there isn't a day that goes by that the scar on my finger doesn't hurt. It's almost impossible not to have my index finger at least graze across something at some point during the course of my daily activities. And every single time it does, it flipping, stinking hurts and the pain makes me wince and tear up. Even though I know I will always have the scar, I hope that over time as my skin toughens up, the pain will subside. Over time ... over time ... over time ... my finger isn't the only part of me that's scarred ... it's not the only part of me that carries a forever reminder of the wound that caused a scar to form. I can only hope that over time those other scars will toughen up, too ... hope ... I can only hope.

Here's the thing ... I know from the messages you send me that some of you have some scars of your own ... painful scars that remind you every single day of the hurt that caused them to form. Scars caused by wounds so deep, you wonder if the pain will ever go away. My hope for you is that it will ... that all your scars will toughen up and the pain will subside ... that your hearts will heal.

“The best people all have some kind of scar.” --- Kiera Cass

From Out of Nowhere

I've seen a ton of critters over the four plus years I've been walking on my beloved trail, first with J.R. and now with Oliver ... two little wiener dogs who've trotted faithfully by my side through thick and thin ... seriously ... through thick and thin. But back to the critters ... fox, geese, muskrats, deer, hawks, fish, bobcats, frogs, snakes, beaver ... I've see a ton of critters out on the trail. But I've never seen anything like what I saw tonight ... never in my whole entire life have I seen what I saw tonight.

I was deep in thought as I walked this evening, head down, eyes glued to the pavement beneath my feet ... and when I say deep in thought, I do indeed mean deep, deep, deep in thought. Which is why when Ollie stopped in his tracks right in front of me, I stumbled and came dangerously close to doing a face-plant onto the asphalt. When I was finally able to regain my balance, I noticed that Ollie still had not moved and the fur on his back was standing straight up. I looked up to see what had caught his attention, thinking it was probably a big dog ... Ollie has little dog syndrome oozing out of his tiny wiener dog body, and he thinks he can take on any big dog he sees. It wasn't a dog ... it was an owl ... a big owl ... a huge owl sitting right in the middle of the trail with a squirming mouse in its beak. 

I quietly leaned over and lifted my by then growling Oliver into my arms ... heck yes, I was scared ... the biggest owl in the history of the universe was perched on the trail in front of me with a live mouse hanging out of its mouth ... of course I was flipping, sticking, shaking all over scared. I didn't know what to do ... I've never had an owl with its dinner in its mouth block my way  on the path before ... so I just stood there with my hand clamped over Ollie's snout as I whispered, "No barking, Ollie, no barking ... please no barking." Thank goodness, he actually listened to me and didn't bark ... but he did whine, and he whined so loudly that the owl stood up, got a running start, extended its enormous wings and lifted into the air with ease and grace.

It would be nice if that were the end of the story ... but it's not. Remember the mouse the owl had in its mouth? Well ... part of Mr. Mouse came out of Mr. Eagle's mouth as he took off and it hit with a splat on the trail in front of me and Ollie ... and it was disgustingly gross. I was gagging as Ollie tried his best to get out of my arms ... there was no way on earth I was letting him escape until we were well beyond what was left of poor Mr. Mouse. 

I'm sure there's some reason and some inspirational lesson as to why Ollie and I met up with Mr. Owl and Mr. Mouse tonight ... maybe it's to remind me that we all run into the biggest owl in the history of the universe at some point on the journey of life, and that it's up to us to figure out how to get around it. Maybe it's to remind me that there are times when I need to be still and just wait it out. Maybe it's to remind me that it's a heck of a lot better to be the owl than the mouse. Maybe I'm dead bone tired tonight and it means nothing ... but then again ... maybe it means a whole, whole, whole lot more than I know. Maybe it does indeed.

I Get It

One of the best ideas I ever had was getting two copies of each book I buy for my granddaughter ... one I send to her, and one I keep for myself so that we can read together when we Skype. I've purchased several books for the two of us, but hands-down my favorites are the Kohl's Cares books. All the proceeds from the books go to kids' charities, and they are nice hardback books that only cost $5 each. There are also stuffed characters available for purchase that go along with the books, and though my son insists that C.J. has too many "stuffies" ... well ... suffice it to say that I, on the other hand, believe a little girl can never have too many stuffies. Last Saturday, I went to Kohl's to buy a couple of books for C.J. to add to her special "after her baby sister arrives" gift I've been working on for the last couple of weeks.

The store was busy, as it is most Saturdays, and the line to check out was pretty long. I was in no hurry, so it didn't bother me to wait ... truth be told, sometimes I'm grateful for long waits at a store on the weekends because it's at least a little less time I spend sitting home alone. There were 15 or so people in line ahead of me, including the three women directly in front of me who looked to be about my age. They were laughing and talking about the great bargains they had found, where they were going for lunch and what movie they would see afterwards ... it was obvious that they were friends out for a day of fun together. I wasn't eavesdropping, by the way ... they were loud and boisterous, and everyone waiting in line could hear their conversation. It was easy to pick up on the respect they had for one another, and I stood behind them quite impressed at how kind they were to each other, thinking they must be really awesome gals ... until the woman in front of me dropped one of the items she was holding. She didn't realize the garment had slipped from her hand, so I stooped over and picked it up, tapped her on the shoulder and said, "Excuse me ... you dropped this." She turned and took the item from my outstretched hand and immediately turned back to her friends ... she didn't say thank you ... she didn't say oops ... she didn't say one word ... she just took the shirt and resumed talking to her friends.

I think one of the toughest things in life is feeling invisible or unworthy, and I spent the next 10 minutes while I waited in line last Saturday feeling just that way. It's crazy, I know ... those women were total strangers, and yet in one split second, they managed to cause those feelings to sweep over me like warm, gooey syrup on hot, fluffy pancakes. I'm sure it didn't help that the week before I had seen some people who used to be a huge part of my life ... people who wouldn't even look at me or say hello. I'm also sure it didn't help that someone told me about some not so nice comments some people made about me ... people whom I thought actually liked me. I'm equally as sure it didn't help that I was called out last week concerning my level of respect for someone I never intended to be disrespectful toward in any way. And I'm sure as well that ... oh, never mind ... I get it and I'm sure you do as well.

I get it. I get it that someone can be talking to me and someone better walks up and it's like I'm not even there anymore ... I get it. I get it that a group of women who are talking about sewing or makeup or pedicures or fancy clothes don't include me in the conversation ... I get it. I get it that people talk about the way I walk or dress or wear my hair ... I get it. I get it that I miss people who don't miss me ... I get it. I get it that I'm not the kind of friend people want to invite over for dinner on a Saturday night ... I get it. I get it that people talk about me and say mean things about me behind my back ... I get it. I get it that I don't fit in at a girls night out gathering ... I get it. I get it that a lot of folks are really good at pretending to love me when they actually don't ... I get it. But just because I get it ... just because I've come to accept the reality of what is ... just because I get it doesn't make it hurt any less, and it doesn't make me feel any less invisible or unworthy.

I'm closing tonight's post with a photo someone sent to me today ... a really powerful photo. Remember, friends ... words can heal or words can hurt ... the choice is up to you. And remember this, too ... sometimes saying nothing can do the very same thing.

I get it ... do you?

The Story of the Three Trees

Once upon a time there were three trees. One tree was short ... one tree was tall ... one tree was medium size. One tree had large dark green leaves ... one tree had small reddish leaves ... one tree had slender pointy brown leaves. One tree grew deep within the forest ... one tree grew next to a lake ... one tree grew in a yard behind a house. Though each of the trees began as small saplings, they grew in different places under different circumstances. Each tree received differing amounts of water and sunlight. Each tree endured differing degrees of heat and cold. Each tree was different from the other, but each tree was still a tree.

The trees didn't fight over which one was the best tree or which one was the smartest tree or which one was the prettiest tree. The trees considered themselves blessed to be trees. The trees didn't look at each other and say, "If the fire comes, you're toast." The trees didn't go to each other and murmur, "You're growing the wrong way." The trees didn't stare at each other and grumble, "Your leaves aren't even leaves."  The trees didn't hate ... the trees didn't gossip ... the trees didn't attack ... the trees didn't scorn ... the trees didn't judge. The trees were trees together ... each one different, but each tree still a tree.

We humans would do well to learn from the three trees ... we would do well to be the three trees. Be kind to each other, friends ... there are many things in life we cannot choose, but we can always choose to be kind. The next time you're tempted to toss a match on someone, think about the three trees and choose to be kind instead. Remember ... one match can burn the mightiest of trees.

Once upon a time, there were three trees. Each tree was different from the other, but each tree was still a tree. The trees were trees together ... each one different, but each tree still a tree.

Kiss the Girls

I'm sure many of you who are around my age remember the television cartoon The Jetsons ... pretty certain that most of us who grew up in the 60s will forever remember that show. George, Jane, Judy and Elroy ... the absolute most awesomely cool space age family ever. They lived in Orbit City and had a robot maid named Rosie who took care of all their household chores. And Astro the dog ... man, I loved Astro the dog when I was a kid. George worked for Spacely Space Sprockets, and he commuted to work in a flying saucer-like aero car while the family zipped from place to place in these totally awesome tube contraptions. Yep, the Jetson family had it going on, especially when it came to travel ... they could go wherever they wanted in the blink of an eye. 

I can honestly say I haven't often wished for some sort of space age mode of travel, or better yet, to be able to teleport to a different location. But yesterday and today ... yesterday and today, the only place I wanted to be was in Canada and I would have given anything to be able to jump on board a spaceship or yell, "Beam me up, Scotty," and be magically transported to my son and daughter-in-law's house. Oh, there are tons and tons of days when I wish I could be with my little C.J. ... I miss her so much it stinking flipping hurts. But yesterday was an extra special day in C.J.'s life ... in all of our lives ... yesterday, C.J.'s baby sister was born, weighing in at 7 lbs 9 oz. She made her grand entrance in the afternoon, and tonight she and Becca are home and doing well. When I spoke with Matt last night, he sounded tired and excited ... the proud father of two beautiful, healthy little girls.

I would have loved to have seen C.J.'s face when she met her baby sister for the first time ... I'm sure it was a precious and special moment. I can't wait until we Skype in a few days ... I'm sure she will tell me all about it, and I'm looking forward to actually "seeing" my new granddaughter. Matt sent me a couple of pictures last night, and she looks a lot like C.J. did when she was born ... lots of dark hair and chubby little chipmunk cheeks. Yep, I'd give anything for a spaceship right about now ... I want to hold her and rock her and cuddle her and smell her little baby smell and look into her big blue eyes. I want to meet my new granddaughter and tell her how much I love her already.

C.J.'s middle name is Queen ... the middle name of Becca's great grandmother. When my son told me the meaning of C.J.'s baby sister's middle name, tears filled my eyes and emotion washed through my heart. Her name is Amelie Malou ... my mom's name was Mary Louise ... Malou. Mom would have been tickled pink ... she would have been tickled pink. And even more, she would have been so proud of the adults my children have become ... she would have been so very proud of them.

So Matt and Becca ... rest well, kiddos, and know that I love you with all my heart and wish I was there with you. Kiss the girls for me ... kiss those beautiful little girls and tell them their Ghee loves them to the moon and back.